Photo Credit: www.safetyweb.com[/caption]It's no secret that today you can ‘Google’ just about anything or anyone you want. You can find out how much your neighbor paid for their home, the criminal background of just about anyone and even your co-workers' salaries. Just because the social media and ‘Google’ make it so -darned- easy to cyber stalk does NOT mean you should do it.
Before a first date, please don't Facebook, Myspace, LinkedIn, Google or stalk your potential match in any way. If you have been set up through a good friend, or reputable company like One on One Matchmaking or the 8 at 8 Dinner Club, you have nothing to worry about. If you read all about your future date online, it will make you look like a creepy person for knowing WAY too much about them already. It will also prevent organic conversation from developing between the two of you because you already know everything. This all adds up to a less fun firstdate. Snooping around the Internet may also cause you to make snap judgments about someone, before you have even met. Our first impressions of people can hinder us from wanting to get to know them, if they are based on what we have heard or read about them, rather than what we have experienced with them.
For example, you may see several pictures of your date with the opposite sex. Your first impression could be "player" or "not serious about a relationship." Those people could simply be relatives and now you're headed to the date with a bad seed in your mind about them. That bad seed could cause you to be awkward, ruin the date and miss out on someone who is a big family person. Do you see where we're headed with this? Pictures are NOT worth a thousand words, when it comes to judging the character of a stranger....well unless it's a picture of them doing something violent or incriminating.
Besides, slipping up on the date and showing you know way too much about them is one extremely quick way to make your date think you’re
Just relax. It is a first date. If there isn’t a connection or chemistry and you don’t want to go out with them ever again- good news- you don’t have to! Don’t be scared of dating. You have to put yourself out there to get the results that you are looking for. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Good luck and don't stalk,
One on One and Eight at Eight
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