3 Reasons Your Hot Date Turned Cold

 

The date was a success! You talked and laughed for hours. You call your hot date to ask for a second one. What happened? Your hot date turned cold.

This happens to both men and women. Anything could have happened. Maybe it was something you said, lack of chemistry or an ex swept them off of their feet right after your date. Some things you can't avoid but the way you carry yourself on your date is in your control. Make sure you didn't commit any of the offense below. If you did, that may be the reason your hot date turned cold.

You Referenced Your Ex: Sure, everyone knows not to talk abouttheir past relationships on dates, but think back to your date. Did you subconsciously talk about them? "Oh Jenny used to love that movie!" or "Bob hated hiking. I'm glad you like it!" While you're not really talking about them, you're still referencing them, as you're sitting on a date with someone else. That implies you're dwelling, which for people who like to stay drama-free is a turnoff. Who wants to be compared to the ex all the time? You're not with them for a reason. Don't compare them to this great new person. Give them a clean slate.

You Complained: Nothing turns off someone who's interested in you faster than complaining all the time. "I wish I  could drop a few pounds," "Ugh this food is terrible. We should've done a different restaurant," or "Our waiter is terrible. What's wrong with him?" are all things you should avoid saying on the first few dates. Be positive and happy to be on the date, until you have proven that you're not an all-round negative person. Remember, they don't have a lot to go on so the way you behave on the date is perceived to be how you are in general.

You Were Mean: Sometimes the waiter makes mistakes or people bump into you. When you're on a date you need to be on your best behavior when this happens. Don't be mean to the waiter for forgetting you wanted water with no ice. Don't shove someone who bumps into you because it's crowded and please, please, please don't say, "Well there goes their tip!" That comment is rude and uncalled for. It's not funny to someone who doesn't know you- it's mean. Also, if your date is a little out of the loop don't make them feel bad by saying things like, "You didn't know that?What's wrong with you?" Try not to verbally react to things that annoy you on the date. Make your date feel like you are a friendly, welcoming person and they'll want to see you again.

We hope these tips will help you in the future. Are you guilty of any of these things? Make an effort not to reference your ex (no matter what), be positive and make no complaints. Be friendly and welcoming on your date instead of a mean grouch and that hot date will stay hot for you!

If you aren't making these mistakes, it just means there was no mutual chemistry. May be you were too much like a friend or didn't seem interested enough- make sure to smile often. It could be any number of things, but as long as you are on your best behavior, it's no fault of yours.

Good Luck,

Eight at Eight and One on One

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