'Tis the Season for Singles

Dear Sexy Singles,
 
The one question I always get that makes me laugh is "If he/she is so great, why are they still single? What is wrong with them?" Well, look in the mirror, because chances are, you're probably in the same boat! There are lots of pretty good reasons why someone might be single, and although the stigma is that there might be something wrong with them, the more likely answer is, there's probably a lot right with them.  
 
Okay, sure, you've probably met all the singles that, well, should be single. It's not hard to figure out why the druggie with the mommy issues who can't hold a job isn't going to make it in the long haul. The good news is, we've done the dirty work for you and filtered out the "single for a reason" crowd. Smart singles wait for Mr. Right, rather than Mr. Right Now. 
 
I started this business because I believe that there are always quality singles of every age. The problem is that it gets progressively more difficult to meet them. What I am proud to offer is an opportunity to let your love life be just as successful as you are. A tailor-made dating service is exactly what you deserve! When you are ready to see what other great, exciting singles are out there, you might just find that looking for Mr. or Ms. Right is the best adventure of all. After all - you're still single, right? Make meeting fabulous, new people one of your New Year's resolutions!
 
Have a wonderful holiday season. Be of good cheer and, most of all, be the best single self you can be - for now!

Sexting, Sugar Daddies, & the Royal Wedding

What do these things have in common? I recently came across the article The Way We Loved- which highlights significant dating trends and discoveries surfacing in 2011. Did you know that for the first time in history there are more non-married people in the United States than married ones?  Would you be shocked to learn that “sexting” (sending racy text messages) has been added to the Oxford Dictionary?  

Call me old-fashion, but I hope some of these trends disappear just as fast as the New Year is approaching us. Whether you think dating is a game or a battlefield, it is important to know the rules. So, I hope you enjoy these quirky facts and tidbits as much as I do. Just promise not to use them to strike-up conversation with that hottie by the punch bowl.

Happy Dating!

Over Online Dating?

Tired of surfing profiles? Eight at Eight gets you face-to-face with 4 new singles at each dinner. Check out our article in Time Out New York.  



Eight at Eight
Urban professionals accepted to this exclusive 11-year-old service (8at8.com) can purchase a package of five dinner parties ($700), where straight singles are carefully matched in groups of eight at a restaurant (four men and four women, with new ones each time). The fee only covers only a drink, but once a hostess makes introductions, dinners usually produce at least one couple. Members range in age from 23 to 55, but, says founder Sarah Kathryn Smith, “Our sweet spot is helping people in their thirties and forties.”

Celebrity Matchmaking for Kim Kardashian

If you’ve been out of the country for the past few months then you may have missed this celebrity gossip: Kim Kardashian got married to-and has separated from-her husband of only 72 days, Kris Humphries. Although this is not the shortest celebrity marriage, it’s obvious that these two were not compatible from the start. There were no signs of cheating or any questionable behavior because the couple’s marriage did not last long enough for any scandal to ensue. In the opinion of our seasoned matchmaker: “Kim and Kris were just not right for each other.”

Since celebrities love free stuff, we thought we’d offer a sort-of-condolence gift: advice. Sorry Kris, but Kim’s the bigger celebrity and harder to match. (Anyway, we bet you’ll just settle down with a sweet and pretty girl from your home state… wherever that was again. Did we mention that she’ll probably be blonde?)

But who should Kim date next? She’s a powerful businesswoman and loves being in the spotlight. Kim needs a partner who can support her high-profile lifestyle. Here are our suggestions:

Guy Richie- He’s mature, artistic, successful, and could handle dating Madonna.

Ryan Reynolds- He’s funny, attractive, and has three older brothers (which would make great TV). He’s been married before so he’s been through a similar experience, and he’s not afraid of commitment.

Tyler Perry- He’s an entrepreneur like Kim and very well connected. He’s family oriented and seems like he’s ready to settle down.

Prince Amedeo- He’s a member of the Belgian royal family and lives in New York City where he works for Deloitte. Kim would not only be connected across the country, but also cross the Atlantic. He’s very athletic and has even run the NYC Marathon.

We hope Kim will take our advice when she's ready to date again.

How an AU Tiger and a UGA Bulldog made the Perfect Match

Since moving to Atlanta from a private university with a less-than-stellar football team, I learned one thing fast: southerners are serious about college football. Lesson number two? One of the oldest rivalries in the South is between the Auburn University Tigers and the University of Georgia Bulldogs. We’ve had clients turn down dates because they felt disloyal for fraternizing with “the enemy.” (As a matchmaker, this seems pretty extreme-but then again I’ve never had that game day experience of a big state school.) So, for all you college sports fanatics, here’s proof that true love conquers all.

A previous client of ours sent these orange roses to his wife-who he meet through our service-to celebrate the 2 year anniversary of the couple’s first date; it also just happened to be the weekend of the Auburn/Georgia game. What a kind, thoughtful gesture from one of our favorites. We could not be happier to have played a part in making this introduction!

So what can we learn from the happy couple? If you’re serious about finding love, be prepared for it to look a little different from what you had imaged. Be open. Sure, it would be great to date someone who loves the same teams and shares the same hobbies. But what’s better is dating someone who loves and respects you for who you are. After all, people aren’t manufactured…and there’s nothing like a good rivalry to keep things interesting.

Special thanks to our couple for the update.

Should You Become Facebook Official?

Check out this survey before you pop "the question."

And by that I mean the "do-you-want-to-be-Facebook-official" question.

Your grandparents had "want to go steady?" Your parents knew "will you be my girlfriend?" This seems to be the exclusivity question of our generation. If you've watched The Social Network then you know the importance of  the relationship status; Mark Zuckerberg makes a point of adding this category to each FB profile before launching his site. You should make a point of reading the relationship stastics below to learn how social media has changed the dating game.

*Ask us about our national date coaching program- 888-897-8285, coaching@1on1matchmaking.com.

Click on the link to read the entire article by Lab42

Just Say No to Bad Dates

Is there a polite way to turn down a date? For the most part, I support the idea that you should give everyone a fair shot. But, then again, there are always exceptions. So, how do you say no to someone you’re not interested in? You say it quickly and directly. If you’ve declined a date with this person more than once, then it’s time to be blunt. Rachel Greenwald, author of Find A Husband After 35, suggests using language such as this: “I’m sorry, but there is no chance at all for us. Please stop asking me.” Pay attention to your tone-the trick is to not sound too severe or too sappy. The words may seem a bit harsh, but you shouldn’t waste your time or energy getting bogged down by someone who’s not compatible. Greenwald advises that you soften the blow by acknowledging the person’s positive characteristics, or suggesting that he/she would be a good fit for another friend of yours. If the person reacts badly: c’est la vie. It’s better to honest upfront and to avoid hurt feelings down the road.

Meet Your Matchmaker: Reagan

As 8at8's new Director of Membership, I could not be more excited to join the world of matchmaking!  Having been in sales and recruiting for the last 4+ years, this is an exciting new adventure where I can still use some of my already-honed skills!  In addition, I have had my share of ups, downs, and all-arounds in the world of dating... so I may know a thing or two about this!

I was born in Atlanta, grew up in Ponte Vedra Beach, FL, and have been back in Atlanta for 7 years - after spending 4 wonderful years at THE University of Georgia.  I am a huge DAWGS fan, and love going back to Athens for games in the Fall!  I spend my free time at the gym, having wine with friends, eating at new, fun restaurants with my boyfriend, traveling, and going to concerts.  I have been told I can talk to a wall, and I love meeting new people and hearing their life stories!

My girlfriends and I have shared our fair share of stories regarding the dating scene in ATL.  Some have been married off, some are settling down, and some don't ever plan to!  A few things I have learned that I think are worthy of sharing are... be yourself!  Don't fake it, or you will never be able to be the REAL you with that person.  That would sure get old fast.  You are awesome as you come - embrace it.  And -- when you meet someone, don't force it!  If a person doesn't seem like a good match for you now, they may never be.  Give it a few months, then move on!  Time flies whether you are having fun or not!  And lastly -- get out of the house.  You will not meet the love of your life from your sofa!  Get out, meet new people, and maximize your odds in life and in love -- like we do at 8at8!

For more tales from this city girl, you can follow me on my lifestyle blog at: ladolcevita-reagmich.blogspot.com!

Show Our Troops Some Love

It's not too late to participate. Mail your letters today!! You can also drop off your handwritten notes and pictures at our location in Buckhead.

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For the Ladies... from the Millionaire Matchmaker & an Intern

I once read an Audrey Hepburn quote which really struck me. The entire thing reeked of positivity, but the part that stayed in my mind was a line which read “happy girls are the prettiest girls.”

Yeah, right you say-but hear me out on this one.

Looking back, this has been particularly true in my dating experience. It wasn’t until I cleared the emotional bagged left over from a past relationship that my dating life really started to soar.  I had to consciously abandon my need for a man. Once I did, I felt much more at ease with myself. I took the pressure off and my dates became so much more enjoyable.

Why? I had not employed any new strategies for meeting men, but I was getting more and better dates.

Patti Stanger says it best: “Men love happy women. It’s as simple as that…The truth behind the law of attraction is that like attracts like. During my matchmaking events I often see cheerful women who are not classically beautiful attracting more men than the supermodels in the room. Why? Because the supermodels are more likely to be starving and insecure, and don’t exactly exude joie de vivre.”

That’s it? So this change was merely the result of an attitude adjustment? In short, yes. I had appeared desperate. I now seemed cool and fun. Men love to date cool and fun.

Easier said than done. I was lucky because I started working for Eight at Eight shortly after my bad break-up, and the girls in the office were there to coach me through. Patti calls this transition stage “dating detox.” Whether you use your pet, girlfriends, dating coach, or therapist to get to there, one thing is certain: happiness is very attractive.

Here’s to the better dates ahead!

Most Wonderful Time of the Year for Dating

See our recent interview with up & coming website Best Daily Dates.  We love that BDD focuses on getting singles face-to-face and out on dates.

http://bestdailydates.com/blog/eight-at-eight-dinner-parties-for-singles/

October is a great month for dating. Nights are getting colder, darker, longer-but the dating scene is RED HOT.  Many daters start thinking about who they'll be snuggling up with this winter.  If you're single and ready for a relationship, then now's the time to put yourself out there. By the time December rolls around your schedule will be filled with parties, family obligations, and travel. Dating someone new will be last thing on your holiday to-do list. Make the extra effort to date this month. When the winter winds blow and you're tucked inside with your new flame, you'll be happy you did.

A.S.K. (Ask Sarah Kathryn)

Q: "I really don't have a problem attracting dates, how is using a matchmaker better than old-fashioned playing the field?"

A: Playing the field is perfectly fine, and can be a lot of fun. But, it can also be tedious and time-consuming with minimal return on your time investment. Executive matchmaking services are great for individuals who don't have time to play the field or who have found that the field is full of weeds. In fact, matchmaking services can be even more beneficial for someone who attracts a large number of potential dates because professional matchmakers can act as a personal consultant to help you focus on premium matches. The bottom line is that quantity does not mean quality. Chances are you haven't mastered the art of truly finding the diamonds in the rough-the matches with whom you'll have the most common interests, goals, lifestyle, and the ones who are 9s and 10s. Matchmaking services emphasize quality over quantity and help you ensure that time spent getting to know someone is not time wasted.

Which First Date Would You Prefer?

We asked several clients from Eight at Eight Dinner Club for ideas about how to spend a first date. Here are some of their creative responses. Which first date would you prefer? We want to know! Fill out the poll below and help us determine the perfect first date!!

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Happy Anniversary Laura and Brian

Our favorite matchmaker, Laura, will be celebrating her 10th anniversary tomorrow with her husband Brian. Congrats you two love-birds!



What's the secret to a long, happy marriage? "Communication," Laura smirks. "And letting things go."

Laura and Brian are clearly a perfect match. Anyone who's seen them together knows that their relationship is strong. They have three beautiful daughters together-all blessed with Laura's golden locks. On top of working at One on One Matchmaking and taking care of her girls,  Laura has been hard at work planning the couple's celebration. We can't wait to hear all the details.

Finding Someone Perfect for You

One of our new clients brought in this quote.  I think its a good reminder to stop looking for a partner who fits your checklist and instead focusing on finding someone who compliments your emotional, spiritual, and physical needs.



"He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” - Bob Marley

Learn the Science of Attraction

“Let him chase you.” For any woman who has received this advice and brushed it off-you might want to think again. Whether it was from your mother, grandmother, girlfriend, or Cosmo-we’ve all heard the saying: men enjoy the thrill of the hunt. True, this mentalitiy is old-fashion. As smart, sucessful women of the 21^st century we know to go after what we want. But the key here is being aware and approaching the dating scene with a strategy-and based on the findings of these two Northwestern scientists, it’s a strategy backed by pychological reasearch. It’s not that we’re timid and meek; we’re just playing the game to our advantage.

Check out this abstract published in Psychological Science. The experiment employed speed dating as the means for evaluating attraction and the gendered behavior associated with pursuing romantic partners. In otherwords, this trial looked at why men tend to be less selective than women. The study found that the mere act of approaching a potential partner increased one’s attraction to that partner-reguardless of gender.

Alright, but why should the act of approaching a potential partner be a masculine characteristic?  I think this has to do with the fact that the heterosexual dating scene is structured by sexual economics (i.e. women are the sellers/men are the buyers). For now, just know that your mother may have been onto something…if you let him chase you, then he’ll find you more attractive.

Reasons to Give Group Dating a Try

We know the benefits of dating multiple people. Eight at Eight Dinner Club has been in business for over 13 years and was created by the idea that group dating is just more fun! In fact, we encourage our clients to share contact information with any and all members who catch their eye at dinner. When you’re causally dating, there is no reason to limit yourself in getting to know just one person at a time. Dating multiple people can actually be beneficial, and here are six reasons why: 6 Perfectly Good Reason to Date Multiple People.

Sex, Drugs, and Politics: Taboo Dating Topics

When “What’s Your Number?” came out in theaters last Friday, it had us thinking about dating taboos.  Good Idea: Taking your date to this movie. Bad Idea: Using this opportunity to ask him/her “So, what’s your number?” No matter how comfortable you feel on a date, there are some topics you should probably avoid.

Don’t let curiosity kill your chance for a potentially great relationship:

When dating someone new, it is best to keep the conversation light and upbeat. We recommend that you stay away from conversations about past relationships-this includes discussing relationship expectations, like your constant need for public displays of affection. (i.e. “I need some who…”) It’s important to keep the past in the past, especially when it does not pertain to the current situation. Avoid these topics, and you’ll avoid comparisons and insecurities about measuring up to past partners.

The same goes for dating horror stories. Dating can be hilarious, but when you focus on past dates you’re taking time and attention away from what is happening between the two of you.  You never know what could make your new partner jealous or insecure.

Please, do yourself a favor: don’t question the state of the relationship too early on. Ladies-men would rather have relationships than talk about them. Asking where the relationship is headed can make you appear desperate. If often ruins the hunt of the chase.

Do we even have to mention religion and politics? Didn’t think so. These conversations can be provoking but run the risk of offending your date.

Here’s a tip from the experts: There’s nothing wrong with planning out your conversations-as long as they are genuine. Think of questions you might ask your date or short, humorous stories you could share. A list of safe topics you might consider: travel, food/drink, friends, weekend plans, career goals, and hobbies.

How Not to Blow Your Second Date

First dates are often laced with tension and anxiety-even the most confident person can feel a little nervous when going out with someone new. Will there be sparks? Will the conversation flow easily? The not-knowing is both exciting and nerve racking.

But even if the first date was wonderful, it’s usually the second date that will determine whether the relationship will move forward or begin to fizzle. We recommend that you coordinate an activity together-sporting events, museums, local concerts, amusement parks, and zoos/aquariums are all great venues for planning your second date. This way you both can relax and have fun without having to worry about constant conversation. Also, when coordinating date number two, an afternoon date might be preferable. This will keep the momentum going without forcing the relationship to progress too quickly. (Guys- if you plan something adventurous, don’t forget to give your date a heads up so she can dress accordingly. No one wants to be hiking in heels.)



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Infatuation or Love: How Do You Tell?

Any dog-owner knows the wonderful feeling of coming home to a devoted pet; you’re instantly greeted with worshipful affection. This type of infatuation is often called “puppy love,” resembling the adoration of an excited puppy. If you’re not a teenager anymore, then maybe it’s time to distinguish love from infatuation.

When evaluating your emotional response to a potential mate, focus your attention on how that person makes you feel about yourself. A companion may look perfect on paper or your arm, but his or her flawless image will fade as you become more intimate. Seek out a partner who will push your sense of self in a positive direction. Does this person enhance and encourage your positive traits? Does his or her attraction help you feel more attractive? Do you feel like a better version of yourself because of your connection? Instead of focusing on being his or her number one fan, pay attention to how you feel about yourself in the context of your new relationship.

Stuck Searching for The One?

Are you walking through life assessing each potential partner by asking, “is s/he the one for me?” This attitude can quickly lead to discouragement and disappointment. If everyone has one soul mate, then I sure hope mine isn’t living in a secluded village in South America. The truth is that there are many right partners for you: so relax. When you suspiciously scrutinize every date by comparing them to your idealized soul mate, you may be depriving yourself of experiencing truly wonderful relationships.

Let’s Talk about Sexual Chemistry

Are you single and find that the partners you’re sexually attracted to are not compatible matches? When you find yourself sexually attracted to someone, it is likely that you are in sync physically, mentally, emotionally, and/or spiritually. Physical attraction is one element of compatible relationships, but it alone will not be enough to make you and your partner well suited. One of the biggest mistakes you can make when looking for the right partner is judging him/her too hastily. If you meet someone and don’t feel an immediate spark, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t develop chemistry as you get to know him/her better. This is especially true for women. By sharing your thoughts and feelings, you may establish an intense connection, which will cause feelings of sexual attraction to emerge. Studies show that couples who were friends before they became romantically involved tend to have more satisfying marriages.

Harry and Sally agree.

"Was that a Gunshot or a Balloon?”

Ever wonder what it’s like to work for a professional matchmaker?

For today’s post, I thought I’d give you an insider scoop on the drama I encounter working for Atlanta’s sweet, Southern version of the Millionaire Matchmaker. Although I can’t share any juicy details from the love lives of our many fabulous clients, I can share about one aspect of my job: the one that’s left me in the doghouse.

As you may know, our Atlanta headquarters is located in downtown Buckhead. We love our new, trendy location-people are always reading our signs and popping in to say hello-but it’s an expensive venue.  So, like the good businesswomen we are, we try to utilize our space to the max. We constantly change the display in our storefront window, but one thing that's always the same is the bunch of heart balloons you’ll find right outside. As one of the newest employees, it’s my job to set-out these balloons. My lovely boss even purchased a new helium tank so that we can recycle balloons and cut back on trips to Party City.

Unfortunately, I have never been to clown school, and apparently, there is an art to filling balloons. This morning as I was using our new tank, I added too much helium causing the balloon to burst and making everyone flinch at the noise. We all laughed and joked that it sounded like a gunshot.

It was funny.

It was not funny when it happened six more times, or when two more balloons popped as I was taking them outside. Think there’s a quicker way to irritate your coworkers who are busy making phone calls? I doubt it. If you pass by our office today and notice the lone white balloon, then at least you’ll know the back-story.

One lonely balloon vs. the usual vibrant bunch

  

Single Strategies: Which Dating Service is Right for You?

As you already know, it’s National Singles Week; what you also know is that one of the best things about being single is playing the field and going out on a handful of fun, exciting dates. What might not be as clear is how to fill-up your calendar. Are you not meeting enough people or not meeting the right people? Then perhaps it’s time to enlist the help of a dating service/strategy.



Below are some options you might consider: Speed dating, Online dating, the Bar Scene, Eight at Eight Dinner Club, and One on One Matchmaking. You can find love anywhere, but if your time is extremely valuable, (who’s isn’t?) then you might want to take a more strategic approach, keeping in mind the pros & cons of each service/strategy.

	PROS	CONS
Speed Dating	This type of service is quick & relatively inexpensive.	But how well can you get to know someone in 60 seconds?
Online Dating	You can browse profiles in advance.This service gives you time to respond to personal questions with well thought out answers.You can “wink” at hotties in your PJ’s while brushing your teeth.	You feel like you’re browsing a catalogue – the human aspect was lost in the process of online love hunting.How much time do you waste before you finally get in front of someone – who turns out to be anything but the person they described in their profile?
The Bar Scene	A casual way to meet eligible singles close to home.	Yeah, but which ones? People travel in packs of singles and non-singles, making it hard to meet someone eligible.
Eight at Eight Dinner Club	Eight at Eight Dinner Club will seat you in a fun, vivacious group of 4 guys and 4 girls at amazing restaurants.We match our members based on our very own points of compatibility.	We don’t match on race or religion, so if you’re extremely particular about who you’d like to meet, then perhaps you should consider a personal matchmaker.
One on One Matchmaking	Personal attention from experienced matchmakers and feedback throughout the dating process.	Our membership is exclusive and elite. We are currently servicing the Atlanta area.

The #1 Reason You're Still Single

In honor of National Singles Week, Zoosk- an online dating site- conducted a survey with over 4,500 participants.

So what did they learn? Here are some of the highlights:

1) 64% of men say that they are more productive at work when in a relationship.

2) 90% of men and 85% of women would prefer a long-term relationship over having a pet.

3) The #1 reason that men and women claim they're single is the same: "I'm too picky."

Interesting! Click here to read the entire article.

Gestures Speak Louder than Words

Imagine yourself on a great first date. Take a moment and actually visualize what this might look like for you. Do you have a snapshot in your mind? Now, look at the pictures below. Which date would you rather be on?

 

As you can see body language makes an important statement. The way you position or move your body is as meaningful as what your say or how you act: you can appear stiff and unapproachable or warm and caring. They way you carry your body is typically a projection of how you feel about yourself, and it is a key factor is making a potential companion open and responsive. Remember, there is nothing sexier than self-confidence; this can be achieved just by monitoring your movements.

Here are some examples of body language and how these non-verbal actions could be interpreted: hands on hip-readiness, standing tall-confidence, arms crossed-defensiveness, tilted head-interest, touching hair-insecurity, rubbing hands-anticipation, open palms-sincerity. Want to make your date feel like they are the most important person in the room? Smile and make eye contact; it’s the clearest sign of interest and attraction.

Welcome to Dating 101

Have you ever seen the television show “Are you Smarter than a Fifth Grader?” In this game show, adults are asked grade-school level questions, and you know what-the players frequently get these questions wrong. There would be no basis for the show if the players always answered the questions correctly. Here’s my point: there are some skills that are lost without consistent practice.  While it might not be too damaging to forget that 5^th grade history lesson, dating is a skill that you should constantly practice and maintain. We’re here to help you brush up on the basics. Our study guide, 4 Tips to Freshen Up Your Dating Life in September, will push you to the head of the class. With advice on supplies, focus, homework, and extracurriculars- you’ll ace Dating 101 by the weekend.

Meet Our Newest Addition to the Matchmaking Team

Eight at Eight Dinner Club & One on One Matchmaking are excited to introduce the newest recruit for our matchmaking circle. We are growing so quickly that we needed an addition to our team in order to keep up with our continued growth. Welcome Jana! We are so happy to have you with us.

Meet our Matchmaker: here's a little bit more about her.

Hometown: Born in Dubai, United Arab Emirates but moved to Cumming, Georgia when I was 13 for high school (talk about a culture shock!)

College: Undergrad - Georgia Southern University/ Grad school - Savannah College of Art and Design Atlanta Campus

Major: Undergrad - Communications and PR. Grad - Arts Administration

Interests: Running, the outdoors, traveling, and having fun!

Favorite Foods: Can a condiment be a fav food? If so, buffalo sauce! (I'm addicted). If not then a grilled chicken buffalo sandwich with blue cheese dressing.

Favorite Sport/Team: Rugby (I played all through college). The New Zealand All Blacks. More locally, the Atlanta Falcons.

Dating Deal-Breakers

We all have them: those certain characteristics that our perfect mate must possess. He must like dogs. She must want children. Not a smoker. Religious.

We’re not saying that you should settle because having specified dating criteria can be helpful. It’s easier to find a partner if you’re aware of the type of person you’d like to meet. But sometimes these dating deal-breakers are taken to the extreme-like the ones listed in “I Would Never Date Someone Who Didn’t Own A ___.” Click on the following link to read some hilarious responses. How would you respond?

If you can’t get enough dating horror stories, then you should also check out Datingdealbreakers.com. The site has categories like “Cheaters and Liars,” “No! They Didn’t,” and “Pet Peeves.” But we warned, these stories can be rather graphic.

How to have a GREAT First Date

Has it been awhile since you’ve had a great first date? If so, then follow these tips to have a much more pleasant first-date experience.

1)     Like any endeavor in life, success in the dating field depends on preparation. Be prepared to discuss at least five general topics. Think about personal stories or subjects of interest you might discuss in case the conversation hits a lull. Good topics of conversation could include your work, volunteer activities, hobbies, favorite travel destinations, favorite sports teams, books you are reading, or movies you have seen.

2)     Remember to keep your expectations in check. Don’t immediately evaluate your companion as a potential life-long partner. Instead, if the conversation flows easily and there is mutual attraction, then you should be open to going out again.

3)      Keep a lively and positive attitude throughout the date. If you’re positive about yourself and the dating process, then you'll give yourself a better chance to succeed.    

A.S.K. (Ask Sarah Kathryn)

Q: "What should I wear on a blind date?" -Robin, 47

 A: Great question! If you've got a favorite outfit you wear out on the town-throw it on! I've found the clients who look fun, confident and sassy tend to get asked out the most frequently. Business Casual is always a safe bet, but don't stop there. Women look great in dresses, or trendy jeans, and a classy pair of heels. Men always look handsome when wearing a sports coat or a crisp button-down. Anything you are comfortable in is totally acceptable. The Devil is in the details-dress to impress and you'll see results.

The Dating Myth We All Believe

It’s not our fault. This myth begins in our childhood when our parents read us fairytales, and it’s continually engrained into our mind by the novels we read and the movies we see: this myth about falling in love. While we are taught to expect to work for success in all other areas of our life, we still think that love is something that just “happens” to us. We are told that love will strike when we least expect it. Unfortunately, no one is entitled to love. Like everything else worth having, a strong relationship takes work. It takes an effort to meet new people, get to know them, and finally to choose a partner to commit to. So if you want Prince Charming, then you have to let him know you’re available. Same goes for Megan Fox.

Love is the Name of the Game

One of our matchmakers came across this video and shared it with our office. No ladies, we’re not saying that you should sit around waiting for the man who will perform a choreographed dance in the middle of a public park. We just appreciate true love when we see it. And with over 250 marriages under our belt, this is something we get to see very often.

Click on the following link:

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Best Cities for Singles

Labor Day Weekend is right around the corner, so if you’re looking to get away then you must check out Travel and Leisure’s hot list of America’s Best Cities for Singles. The Big Easy took the cake this year, followed closely by Austin and then Las Vegas. It seems like voters we in the mood for strong cocktails and interesting conversations. Readers evaluated the cities based on factors like the quality of boutiques, hotels, restaurants, coffee bars, museums, transportation, etc. All of these twenty-two cities have great singles scenes. Time to plan a trip for Labor Day!!

Love at First Sight: Men vs. Women

When it comes to romance, new research shows that men fall in love faster and more frequently than women. This may be because men are more prone to fall in love by sight, and beautiful women blind them. However, once the pair begins a relationship together then women tend to be more committed to their partners. This may explain why a man, who initially chased after a woman, may have trouble committing to her in the long run. Click the following link to read an article by Relationship Confidence about why men fall in love at first sight.

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When to Call after a First Date

How long should you wait after a date before contacting your new flame? The old rule was quite clear: wait three days and then make the phone call. These days with cell phones, email, text messages, and social media sites, this time frame has become much less concrete. If you enjoyed your date together, we suggest that your contact the other person within 48 hours to make plans. But beware of appearing too desperate! We generally recommend the 2:1 rule, at least while the relationship is still in its infancy. Do not contact your new crush more than twice without hearing a response from him or her. For instance, you can send one text message and make one phone call, or send one email and message on Facebook, but you should wait for his/her response before reaching out again. And remember, if you don’t hear back from him/her right away, keep your options open and try not to over analyze the situation. Dating is truly a numbers game.           

The Trouble with Online Dating

Let me clarify. The trouble with online dating has nothing to do with the method itself, but rather with the mentality that the process seems to encourage. So exactly what do I mean? I’m talking about those little boxes you check in search of your perfect mate. Age. Height. Body Type. Income. After filling out an online profile, many singles become too fixated on whether or not the person they are communicating with has fulfilled all of the elements on their “soul mate wish-list.” Is that how you pick your friends? Love is not about finding someone with the right qualifications; it’s about the way you feel when you’re together. It’s that je ne sais quoi chemistry and connection. Would you marry someone who has the perfect profile without meeting him/her first? Online dating sites can be a great resource for initiating conversations and expanding your network. Just make sure that you do not become too preoccupied with minor details from his/her profile.

Can Friends with Benefits Actually Work?

Have you ever heard the phrase dating is a winter sport? Well, the idea of the casual relationship, or summer fling, seems to be on everyone’s mind this time of year. And ever since Hollywood flooded the big screen with hits like “Friends with Benefits” and “No Strings Attached,” the question people seem to be asking is can friends with benefits actually work?

The answer to that question depends on what each partner is looking for. If you’d like to end up dating the other person, then the answer is probably not. However, research shows that if both partners are honest with each other about the terms of their relationship, then it’s more likely than not that they can actually remain friends after the fling starts to fizzle. In fact, Cosmopolitan’s article about casual relationships gives good insight on the topic and even provides statistics for various success rates. Our tips for entering into a casual relationship are simple. First, be honest with yourself and your partner about what you’re actually looking to gain from the relationship. Second, understand that these relationships will (and should) be short-lived. In the end, you deserve a head-over-heels romance…if that’s what you’re looking for.

Master the Art of Flirtation

For some, flirting with a potential companion feels as natural as breathing. For others, it can feel forced, causing much anxiety and confusion. But no matter who you are, flirting is an important skill to master. Think of it as an art, but one that can be learned with some practice and the right approach.

Flirting should be fun, so lower your expectations and don’t take yourself too seriously. If you expect to date someone the moment they act flirtatious, then you’re likely to come across as desperate. You may only speak with them for a short period of time and then never talk to them again. So, keep your initial expectations low and avoid feeling constantly disappointed.

It is important to be aware of body language especially during the initial approach. If you see someone from across the room, smile at them, hold their gaze, and position your body toward them. If they respond positively, then you can walk up to them and introduce yourself. You’ve got nothing to lose!

Remember, the key to holding a good conversation is that you both gradually open up. When the other person is talking, make sure you give them your complete attention. It is much more important to be a good listener than it is to say something witty. Try to act friendly, upbeat, and remember to have fun!

Sexy Foods make a Hot Date

So, you secured yourself a date for Friday night. Sometime getting a date can be a lot easier than planning that perfect night out. You know you’re going to want sometime to eat, but how do you choose the right restaurant or meal? We’re here to help with a list of foods that will put you in the mood for love. We all know about oysters and chocolate, but you may be surprised by some of the foods on this list. Click the following link to read Gayot’s list of ten super sexy foods. Check please!

Single and Ready to Mingle??

After ending a relationship, no matter how serious, it can be difficult to determine when you're ready to move on.  There are many theories about the time it takes to heal a broken heart: weeks, months, or even half the time of the relationship. In the end, it’s a personal decision, and while there's no magic number, there are several signs that may mean you’re ready to start dating again. The Two of Us, a relationship website, provides some questions to consider.

Do you find yourself constantly talking about your ex?

Can you speak of the relationship without feeling angry or bitter?

And if your ex wanted to reconcile how would you respond?

Everyone will recover at a different rate so it’s important to trust yourself and set your own pace. You may need some time to transition back into the dating scene. Eight at Eight Dinner Club may be a great option for meeting single, relationship-minded professionals without the pressure of one on one dating.

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"Should I give him another chance?"

Q: I went on a date a few nights ago with a family friend and what started out as a fabulous evening quickly turned into a disaster! I met this man at his house for a pre-dinner drink, and then we headed for a meal in Buckhead. We were having a great time, and so we decided stop by another bar because we didn’t want the night to end. To make a long story short, he got a DUI because his B.A.C. was (barely) over the legal limit. I know everyone makes mistakes, but his actions were pretty careless. He has apologized profusely and asked me out again. Should I give him another chance? –Megan, 28

A: I am sure that he is a great guy, but this seems like a rocky way to start a relationship. Besides, he is going to be busy for the next few months dealing with repercussions from that night. Maybe you will see him again in the future, but for now I would give him some space.

We would be happy to set you up with some gentlemen from our Eight at Eight Dinner Club!

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"Am I Out of Line?"

Q: I've been on several fantastic dates with this guy, and I really like him.  However, I don't want to get too attached before knowing a few more things. We're both ready to be in relationships, and the timing seems right in terms of where we are in our careers, finances, etc. I'm only several dates deep with this guy, but family preference is an absolute dealbreaker for me. I'm not saying that I want kids right now, but I'd like to know if he's open to the possibility of a family. How do I even break into this topic with him?    - Ava, 30-something

A: Ava, thanks so much for coming to us! You've hit the nail on the head - Family and reproductive decisions are so personal! This may seem like the last thing you want to ask your beau about in the honeymoon stages of your relationship, but it is not impossible! You definitely want to avoid wording like, "Are you going to give me babies one day?" Instead, try asking him a broader question about his vision for the future (with or without you). "Tell me what you are looking for in terms of a relationship?" and "Do you see yourself settling down and maybe having children one day?" are perfectly fair questions for the third date. If you're both invested in a long-term relationship, then these questions should be easy to weave into a conversation. I wish you the best of luck Ava!