When to Call after a First Date

How long should you wait after a date before contacting your new flame? The old rule was quite clear: wait three days and then make the phone call. These days with cell phones, email, text messages, and social media sites, this time frame has become much less concrete. If you enjoyed your date together, we suggest that your contact the other person within 48 hours to make plans. But beware of appearing too desperate! We generally recommend the 2:1 rule, at least while the relationship is still in its infancy. Do not contact your new crush more than twice without hearing a response from him or her. For instance, you can send one text message and make one phone call, or send one email and message on Facebook, but you should wait for his/her response before reaching out again. And remember, if you don’t hear back from him/her right away, keep your options open and try not to over analyze the situation. Dating is truly a numbers game.