For the Ladies... from the Millionaire Matchmaker & an Intern

I once read an Audrey Hepburn quote which really struck me. The entire thing reeked of positivity, but the part that stayed in my mind was a line which read “happy girls are the prettiest girls.”

Yeah, right you say-but hear me out on this one.

Looking back, this has been particularly true in my dating experience. It wasn’t until I cleared the emotional bagged left over from a past relationship that my dating life really started to soar.  I had to consciously abandon my need for a man. Once I did, I felt much more at ease with myself. I took the pressure off and my dates became so much more enjoyable.

Why? I had not employed any new strategies for meeting men, but I was getting more and better dates.

Patti Stanger says it best: “Men love happy women. It’s as simple as that…The truth behind the law of attraction is that like attracts like. During my matchmaking events I often see cheerful women who are not classically beautiful attracting more men than the supermodels in the room. Why? Because the supermodels are more likely to be starving and insecure, and don’t exactly exude joie de vivre.”

That’s it? So this change was merely the result of an attitude adjustment? In short, yes. I had appeared desperate. I now seemed cool and fun. Men love to date cool and fun.

Easier said than done. I was lucky because I started working for Eight at Eight shortly after my bad break-up, and the girls in the office were there to coach me through. Patti calls this transition stage “dating detox.” Whether you use your pet, girlfriends, dating coach, or therapist to get to there, one thing is certain: happiness is very attractive.

Here’s to the better dates ahead!