Men - Take the Lead!

I have men contact me or write in every week telling me they didn't know how to end the date or ask for a 2nd date.

Men, we have got to talk about this!!!!

It's killing me and 95% of the women out there. In today's world, where women take the lead in their work life, the one place they don't want to take the lead is in their personal life.  If the woman is even remotely type A she will be very turned off that you didn't take the lead in this area.

 

Despite what you see professionally, women still want to be romanced!  They want to feel like if they are being taken OUT, especially in the beginning stages, its the one place they can feel sexy, feminine, and girly.  They just want to think about looking pretty, being sweet and having fun.  It's still your job to court her.  Women have never stopped wanting you to do this, I promise.

Take the lead.  If you know you want to see her again, just asking directly for a 2nd date while you are on the first date.  Yes, you are going to get rejected.  That's part of life.

I read an article recently, where people married people were polled.   20% of women said, they didn't even like their husband when they first met him.  I bet they hadn't made up their mind about him after a first date. But, clearly, the men pursued these women and won them over.

I can guarantee it started with making the woman feel special, feel pursued, feel important.  Taking the lead in itself can be the game changer.

So, in short.  Ask her out for a first date while on a 2nd date. Plan something fun. Call her to follow up within 2 days to iron out the details.  Make her feel like she can relax with you in charge.  She can be the "lady" and just have fun.  Starting out on the right foot can make a world of difference.