People say to me all the time, "Don't you feel so lucky to have met your husband?" This got me thinking. On one hand, yes, I do feel lucky to have met my partner. On the other, I knew what I wanted and I went after it, therefore I feel like I deserve it. Just like a sales call, I knew what I wanted the final outcome to be. I knew that finding a great husband and future father of my children were the most important things to me. Finding love and happiness was definitely worth the risk of failure.
It’s pretty simple.
You want it. You strive for it. You try even harder. You don’t quit.
I met my husband on the 2nd round of joining a dating service, and on the 9th date. I had been on dozens of bad dates prior. I had a date show up drunk, I had to walk home from dinner one night because my date got a DUI with me in the car; trust me I have done my time. I treated the bad dates as funny stories to tell my girlfriends over cocktails and didn’t let them upset me. Quitting my search for Mr. Right was never an option. For me, dating was a fun journey and an adventure.
As a matchmaker, the biggest frustration in the business is when people give up or simply do nothing. Stop whining to your friends and family if you are not ready to put your money where your mouth is. If you go on a bad date or Eight at Eight dinner where there was not a connection, don't give up. Dating is a process and everyone you meet along the way will help you learn more about yourself and what you are looking for.
Dating CAN be fun; you just have to make an effort to look at it that way. Think about exercise. I hate running, but guess what? It’s something I have to do to keep my booty in check. I run with friends, download new music, change locations and do whatever I have to do to keep it fresh, new and fun. Dating is no different. You have to keep it fresh, new and fun.
So don't give up on dating! Stay positive and remember to give your matchmaker both written and verbal feedback so that they can help you stay on track to finding your perfect match. We always feel like we won the World Series here in the office when someone ends up in a relationship. Believe me, we want it just as much as you do!
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