Photo Credit: aibob.wordpress.com[/caption]Having a good conversation can be tricky but it's definitely possible. We are going to break down the fundamentals of a good conversation for you today.
Okay, you've done your hair, done your nails, picked out the perfect outfit, you're looking HOT! You go to sit down at the table and you suddenly realize that you have nothing interesting to say. Getting into a good flow of conversation can be unnerving, but you shouldn't worry- you've got this!
Start slow. Sure, everyone hates small talk but when you are a good conversationalist, you can make small talk grow into a good conversation. Once you've got it rolling it keeps getting bigger and better. In order for the conversation to become something bigger than small talk, you've got to know how to LISTEN.
Women's Example: He is talking about football. You don't know much about football but you have a friend or family member who also loves it. Say something like, "My brother is always talking about Tebow. What's that about?" or try, "I have heard football games get pretty wild. What's the wildest thing you've seen at one?" Show that you have some kind of interest in it, even if you don't care to know the difference between a touch down and field goal.
Men's Example: She loves to cook. Ask her what her favorite dish is. "Is that a French dish?" if she says, "Yes, I love French food!" respond, "Cool, have you ever been to France?" Now you have opened up room to talk about traveling and the places you want to visit or have visited. The conversation is in your comfort zone.
The point isn't to keep talking about things that don't interest you but to find a way to make them interesting to the both of you.
Until next time, good luck,
One on One and Eight at Eight
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