Apathy

One of our matchmakers, Jennifer, recently attended a dating seminar hosted by Dr. Janet Page- a very well-respected relationship therapist in Atlanta who spoke about the dangers of apathy.

Apathy: a state of indifference; suppression of feelings of excitement, passion, and motivation.

In your personal life, apathy may look like this:  you want to lose weight, stick to a diet plan for two weeks and then fall of the regiment. Or you are serious about getting your financials in check this week, but as soon as that sale hits you've forgotten about your budget.  If you're 100% committed, your lifestyle will resemble that... Your priorities, daily schedule, and life will resemble what you care about.

But what does apathy look like in your dating life?  You're where you want to be in your professional life, but fail to set aside time to actually invest in a relationship or dating service. You want to be married, but never go about doing anything to see this happen.  Maybe some of you guys hide behind the convenient work excuse, saying you're just too busy to date right now.

Caring for people is tough.  It's heavy stuff.  At some points, you may face rejection and it will suck.  But, Jennifer leaves this thought with us, "As someone who has done it ( I literally went on more than 100 dates).  I promise you it's worth it when you find it.  I am not lonely.  I have found my partner in life, someone that cares about me, as much as I do myself, someone to help me strive to be better, to keep myself in check, someone to tackle financial burdens with, someone to, God willing, raise a family with. Life is better with a partner.  It keeps you from just going through the motions. It helps you focus on the things that truly matter.  Having a partner, helps you be less apathetic in general, because you have someone to check in with, someone to go through it with you."

So, if you're reading this and finding that you're identifying with a little bit more of the message than you've hoped- reflect this week. Are you truly open to finding a partner?  In what ways could you be keeping yourself from real love?