Wondering if someone is relationship material, after going on several casual dates, is common. The question is what is it that makes someone relationship material? Today we're going to give you four key points to help you determine whether or not your sweetie is just for fun or in for the long haul.
1. The person does NOT say, "I don't want a relationship"- If someone tells you he or she does not want a relationship, believe them. You can't put what you want on the back burner and hope he or she will eventually want the same thing. You are much more likely to develop a serious relationship with someone who is on the same page as you. Of course, there are always exceptions, but don't put all your hope into someone who has already told you they don't want what you want.
2. He or she let's you into their world- Anyone who let's you get to know close friends or family, especially, probably wants to keep you around for a while. Also, doing routine activities like exercising together is a good sign, because you are now part of their routine. Someone who isn't relationship material will be secretive of their personal life. Often, they will keep you separate from all aspects of their life, including friends, family and most of their routine activities. If you only see your sweetie on the weekends, when they have nothing else going on, you are not dealing with someone who is ready for a relationship with you.
3. They are NOT the "me, me, me" type- People who care only about themselves are not relationship material. This doesn't mean that they will never find their match, but they need to go through more life experience and have a few revelations about what it means to be in a relationship, before you or anyone enters a relationship with them. Trying to make a relationship work with someone like this will be exhausting and emotionally depleting. These types of people do not reciprocate emotional support, which is important for a healthy relationship.
4. He or she communicates well- Poor communication can ruin a relationship. Gauge the communication skills of the person you are dating, before entering in a relationship with them. Do they just pop up without asking if you are available? Do they cancel plans randomly? If they are in a bad mood, do they talk to you about what's bothering them or do they lash out? These are all things you should think about. Not communicating properly about plans or emotions can wear heavily on both you and your relationship.
We hope these tips are useful and that your current sweetie is in it for the long haul!
Until next time, good luck!
One on One and Eight at Eight
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