Photo Credit: omgwedding.ru[/caption]Are you a woman who struggles with having masculine energy or a man who struggles with feminine energy? Don't worry shifting your energy will be easy with our tips.
For Masculine Women
At work, utilizing masculine energy is sometimes necessary. The trick is knowing how to turn it off. If you want a powerful man, you have to know how to allow him to be powerful. Two people can't wear the pants in the relationship. Being overly aggressive and always taking the lead can be a turnoff for some men. Men like to feel needed. Allow him to do things for you and learn how to appreciate compliments. Let him open your door, carry heavy things for you, or guide you through a crowd.
In a conversation, don't only talk about yourself and your success at work. Show genuine interest by asking him questions about himself and smiling as he answers, when appropriate. For instance, if he says he loves to cook, smile and say, "I bet you're quite the chef!" Complimenting your date can soften you quite a bit, so try to sprinkle a few compliments in throughout your date. Men love to feel strong and smart, so play up those qualities in him.
If you want to see him again, laugh at his jokes and let him know you're having a great time. Letting him know you're enjoying yourself will boost his confidence and make asking you for a second date much easier.
***Please note you do not have to be completely submissive to be feminine. Play your role in the relationship and let him play his. Let him pay, let him fix things for you, let him give you advice (when he has experience), and let him give you gifts. Let him be a man!
For Men
It's easy to have feminine ways and not be aware of it, but if someone points it out, compare yourself to your female friends and your male friends. Do you find yourself saying things that more of your female friends say, rather than what your male friends say? Saying, "My BFF," "OMG," or talking about how a woman's shoes don't go with her outfit can come across as feminine. Most heterosexual men don't say "BFF" or "OMG" and they certainly don't care about a woman's outfit, besides to say she looks great. Be wary of picking up habits from your female friends, if you have a lot of them.
You'll also need to set yourself apart from women, if you want to seem more masculine. Having lots of money is no longer an automatic plus for you. Women can make their own money and sometimes they may make more than you do. Pick up a masculine hobby fixing cars, playing recreational sports or carpentry. Hearing you talk about working on engines or golfing with the guys will put a masculine image of you in her head.
Last but not least, don't take being metro-sexual too far. Getting your eyebrows groomed so that they won't be unruly is different from getting them arched. Getting a manicure or pedicure for grooming purposes is different from getting your nails painted. Think about this in the way you walk, talk, dress and behave.
Until next time, good luck,
One on One and Eight at Eight
I'm one of those masculine women you wrote about. I'm assertive, aggressive, athletic, and I don't take any crap!! But...sigh...you're right, I scare the pants off guys because no one ever expects my character/demeanor upon meeting me. I have a very youthful and feminine appearance, so guys are often shocked to learn that I can easily run the show, but they love it, and they're scared of it, and yet enticed by it so they cling, then I don't like them anymore. I worry that even if I tone it down a bit I'll still be disappointed because they're too soft! But that's still very good advise.
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