Break Bad Dating Patterns to Start Making Better Choices[/caption]Do you find yourself always dating the wrong woman or wrong man? You likely have a dating pattern that needs to be broken.
Sometimes, because people come in different shapes and sizes, we are tricked into thinking they are different from our previous partners. This is not always the case. You may be dating someone who is more nerdy than the ultra-suave man you dated before, but he is still emotionally unavailable. Maybe you tried to date a woman who was a teacher because you thought she would be more nurturing than your corporate ex, but she still seems too busy for you. The reason it seems like "they're all the same" is because, subconsciously, you are picking the same types of people to date.
Make a list of your past 4 relationships, then list the first 3 qualities you liked and disliked about them that pop into your head. You will soon be able to see a pattern. If the pattern is you date women who are not nurturing, ask qualifying questions as you are getting to know your potential partner. For instance, "I love a good home-cooked meal. Do you like to cook?" You could also try the playful approach. "I'm terrible, when I'm sick. Are you a good nurse?" Judge her responses to your questions to decide whether or not she will be the type of nurturing woman you desire.
Figuring out men is a little more difficult. The easiest way to judge them is by their actions. If your pattern is dating men who are emotionally unavailable, be wary of men who make excuses for not showing more emotion or refuse to open up about their personal lives. Not knowing much about him after several dates is usually a sign he is not willing to open up and he is emotionally unavailable. Read more about emotionally unavailable men here.
Dating patterns are often caused by experiences we have had in our lives. Breaking extreme patterns like only dating addicts or emotionally abusive people may require professional help from a counselor.
These are just two examples of possible bad dating patterns, but your pattern may be different. A dating coach is a great resource to help you identify and break dating patterns that are negatively impacting your dating life. One on One Matchmaking offers a national date coaching program. Email coaching@1on1matchmaking.com or call 888-897-8285 to learn more.
Until next time, good luck!
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