Photo Credit: goodliffe.blogspot.com[/caption]Mixed signals affect both sides negatively. The person giving them doesn't get his or her true feelings across and the person receiving them becomes lost and confused in the relationship.
Both men and women are guilty of giving mixed signals, but why? Often, they do enjoy time with the other person, but don't see a serious relationship being sustainable with the other person. In this instance, mixed signals are the result of trying to be kind, but not knowing how to break things off without losing a good friend. The mixed signals could also be an attempt to keep you around, until someone else better comes along. Some people have difficulty being alone and hop from relationship to relationship.
Mixed signals are not always intentional or meant to just keep you around. Many singles think they are ready for a serious relationship and when things start becoming more serious they get cold feet. This doesn't mean they don't want to be with you or they are waiting for someone better. Things may just be going too fast for them, leading to odd behavior. This is why communication in relationships is so important. Communicate with your partner regularly to make sure you are both comfortable with each big step in your relationship. As you begin staying over several nights a week, gaining your own area in the closet, meeting family, and planning vacations together make sure the pace at which all of these things are happening is comfortable for both of you.
If you suspect your partner's mixed signals are telling you they may not be as into your relationship as you are, talk about it. Point out why you think you are getting mixed signals and how they are making you feel. The person giving the mixed signals is the only one who can set them straight. Speculating will only drive you crazy.
More on Mixed Signals
http://www.practicalhappiness.com/mixed-signals-from-women/
http://www.examiner.com/article/why-men-give-mixed-signals
Until next time, good luck,
One on One ad Eight at Eight
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