3 Ways to Avoid the Friend Zone

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The friend zone is a place no man or woman wants to be, when they have feelings for someone. As a matchmaking service, we put people who are very compatible on dates all the time. When things don't spark, they normally become friends due to how compatible they are. Unfortunately, there is usually  someone in the friendship who doesn't want to be just friends.

These 3 tips will help you steer clear of the dreaded friend zone.

1. Dress the part- When you go on your date, make sure that you have sexed up your look enough that they don't want to see you as just a friend. You would not believe the number of times we hear about men and women who go on dates looking like they are stopping by to hang out with a friend. If you look like a friend, how can you expect your date to see you as anything more?

2. Flirt- Chemistry is not something that happens when you look at someone. It develops with interaction. Try an affectionate gaze, a soft brush up against the arm, or softly guiding your date by the small of her back. Don't be afraid to smile, joke, and touch your date. Sure, you can't get too touchy feely with your friends, but this is a date!


3. Don't talk about or show your attraction to someone else- If the entire time you're on the date staring at the waiter/waitress or talking about how hot your co-worker is, your date may assume you are not looking at them as more than a friend. This will push them to look at you as a friend. Make it known, that your interest is in them and not in someone else.

Remember, look the part, act the part and show them you do want a relationship...not a friend!

Until next time, good luck!

One on One and Eight at Eight 

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She's Too Tall, He's Too Short- Height of Love?

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"He's nice, but he's too short. She's beautiful, but she's too tall." These are things we hear clients say all the time, but does love really have a height requirement?

Recently, things became even more complicated when a client commented the woman he was on a date with was too short. Could she not put on a tall pair of heels to solve this issue? Sometimes both men and women have an illusion of what their ideal partner will look like. This illusion keeps them from finding the one who is truly for them.

The desire for a taller woman is not usually the norm. Most men who date through One on One or Eight at Eight request to be matched with shorter women. A psychological study shared by www.nature.com suggests that the desire for shorter women is linked to a subconscious preference for less powerful women. This is just one possible explanation, but scientists are not 100 percent sure where the preference comes from. That being said, if the woman is not half a foot taller than you and she is a beautiful all-around great woman, why not give it a shot to see if any chemistry develops?

Women are the worst, when it comes to height requirements. If you're 5'5" does he really have to be 6 feet tall? A guy who is caring, supportive and stable with a great personality is what you really want. Date the 5'7" awesome guy and just wear flats. Remember, you will ideally be with your husband for the rest of your life. A tall jerk is not something you should settle for. Of course, there are nice tall men too, but the average height for a man is 5'9" according to the Huffington Post. The odds are your perfect match will not be a giant hunk of man, but an average height hunk of man who is above average in every other way.

Start bending on your height requirements and see how much the quality of the people you date improves.

Until next time, good luck!

Eight at Eight and One on One

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3 Ways to Let Your Money Speak for Itself

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We will get to the ways you can let your money speak for itself in a moment.

First, you should know talking about money is NOT a turn on! Especially, if you're dating someone who has their own financial wealth.

Whether you're a man or a woman, when you run your mouth talking about how much money you have during your date, it is just not sexy. It makes you seem classless and arrogant. The only person who would enjoy listening to how much money you have is someone who wants you for your money. DUH! Instead you should let your money speak for itself.

*These examples can be used for both men and women, but men are the most common offenders in the crime of money boasting, so they are directed at men. Many of the men we are in contact with get negative feedback for boasting about their wealth too much.

1. Do dinner somewhere nice- If you're already at a five star restaurant and you order a three-course meal, I think she gets the point fellas. You don't have to talk about how much money you've got in the bank or how you dropped a million dollars on your new yacht, especially if you don't know her well. For all you know she could have more millions than you do. It's a new day and age. Women who have their own businesses can easily stand up against men, when it comes to income and there are many of them.

2. Make sure she sees your car- Don't talk about your awesome car. Offer to pick her up. When she sees you in your Lamborghini, she'll get it. You have money. Even if she gushes over your nice car, whatever kind of car you may have, don't indulge in sharing how much it cost, how much every single upgrade was, or how much you spent on having custom seats made. Now that you've shown her what you can afford, she will equate that with you having money.

3. Show it in your clothes and accessories-The way you dress can definitely make you appear more wealthy than you actually are. More and more men are becoming more fashionable, but chances are your lady is way ahead of you. She will recognize the custom suit you have on is expensive. If you go on a few casual dates and only wear the most expensive brands, she will recognize them for their notable features. You may not know much about fashion, if that's the case there are all kinds of resources to help you get your look together.

Try picking up a men's fashion magazine like GQ Magazine, getting a stylist, personal shopper, or Googling "men's fashion" to get ideas.

Those are your three tips on making your money speak. Really, you should not use your money as a crutch to get anyone to be more interested in you. In the long run, the person who comes in your life not knowing how much money you make will be the one who is the most genuine.

Until next time, good luck!

One on One and Eight at Eight 

Having a Good Conversation

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Having a good conversation can be tricky but it's definitely possible. We are going to break down the fundamentals of a good conversation for you today.

Okay,  you've done your hair, done your nails, picked out the perfect outfit, you're looking HOT! You go to sit down at the table and you suddenly realize that you have nothing interesting to say. Getting into a good flow of conversation can be unnerving, but you shouldn't worry- you've got this!

Start slow. Sure, everyone hates small talk but when you are a good conversationalist, you can make small talk grow into a good conversation. Once you've got it rolling it keeps getting bigger and better. In order for the conversation to become something bigger than small talk, you've got to know how to LISTEN.

Women's Example: He is talking about football. You don't know much about football but you have a friend or family member who also loves it. Say something like, "My brother is always talking about Tebow. What's that about?" or try, "I have heard football games get pretty wild. What's the wildest thing you've seen at one?" Show that you have some kind of interest in it, even if you don't care to know the difference between a touch down and field goal.

Men's Example: She loves to cook. Ask her what her favorite dish is. "Is that a French dish?" if she says, "Yes, I love French food!" respond, "Cool, have you ever been to France?" Now you have opened up room to talk about traveling and the places you want to visit or have visited. The conversation is in your comfort zone.

The point isn't to keep talking about things that don't interest you but to find a way to make them interesting to the both of you.

Until next time, good luck,

One on One and Eight at Eight