To send or not to send...

With all the technology we have at our fingertips, it’s no question that “bedroom material” has made it’s way out of the bedroom and has found itself right in those gadgets we love so much.  This convenience is great for hard-working, professional couples but can really land you in hot water if you’re not careful.

A friend of mine.... let’s call her Leah, had been in the middle of a steamy texting conversation with a guy she was casually seeing. When she put the brakes on the relationship a couple days later, it only took a few clicks for him to send out some of those racy pics to 200 of his closest friends.  By the end of the day, most of Leah’s friends had seen.. most of Leah.  Rough lesson. So, before you decide to send out that R-rated text, remember these guidelines:

-Don’t sext what you wouldn’t say in person! 

It can be easy to be bold behind that touchscreen, but be weary! If you wouldn’t say it out loud, you probably shouldn’t text it. When in doubt, DO NOT SEND!

-Don’t sext if you haven’t... sexed. 

Talking a big game before the big game can go wrong in a lot of ways: wrecking your nerves, ruining that first time, and potentially ending something that could’ve worked.  Avoid, avoid, avoid.

-Be weary of pictures

Like my poor friend Leah, who knows what each person did after they received THAT pic.  Pictures can be uploaded to the internet so quickly it’ll make your head spin and once it’s there, it can be impossible to completely remove it.  Trusting someone you don’t totally know with pictures of you in your birthday suit can really end up hurting you emotionally, professionally, and mentally.  Don’t set yourself up for heartbreak!

Above all else, guard yourself and be smart!  Once you’re in a committed relationship, texting can be a great tool for those long business trips or to spice up the day, but if you don’t feel 100% about pressing send... don’t do it.