Before going on a date, there's always a checklist of things to have done: nails, hair, outfit, etc. When it comes to the topics of conversation, I've always been a little nervous of the right moves. I'm really outgoing... but that can backfire. Am I oversharing? Do I seem interesting? Should I be more quiet? But, I've found a couple things that can help ease anxiety before an exciting date!
-First: relax, you've done this your whole life.
Meeting new people has been something you've done your whole life. Classmates, professors, employers, friends... They are all people whom, over time, you've developed relationships with. Just because it's a date doesn't mean that it has to be something scarier than just meeting someone new!
-Don't lay it all out on the table.
For people like me, it can be tempting to feel like oversharing... He talks about something interesting and you have a great story that ties along perfectly. If it's something really worth mentioning-- sure, go ahead... but if it feels like you're just trying to find something to say to fill in the space, resist! It's natural to have lulls in conversation during a date.... fight to urge to ramble.
-Just because he asks, doesn't mean he needs to know it all.
So, he asks why you haven't been taken already or why you're still single... that doesn't mean to give your life story. Keep private things private.. It should be a privilege to get to know you better; there's something to be said about getting to know someone slowly!
But, if you know your nerves are going to be through the roof- try to squeeze in a great workout beforehand, it can calm your mind and your nerves. Above all, try to have fun! If you're having a good time, it'll be sure to show through.
Good luck!
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