Is there a polite way to turn down a date? For the most part, I support the idea that you should give everyone a fair shot. But, then again, there are always exceptions. So, how do you say no to someone you’re not interested in? You say it quickly and directly. If you’ve declined a date with this person more than once, then it’s time to be blunt. Rachel Greenwald, author of Find A Husband After 35, suggests using language such as this: “I’m sorry, but there is no chance at all for us. Please stop asking me.” Pay attention to your tone-the trick is to not sound too severe or too sappy. The words may seem a bit harsh, but you shouldn’t waste your time or energy getting bogged down by someone who’s not compatible. Greenwald advises that you soften the blow by acknowledging the person’s positive characteristics, or suggesting that he/she would be a good fit for another friend of yours. If the person reacts badly: c’est la vie. It’s better to honest upfront and to avoid hurt feelings down the road.
Friday, November 4, 2011
Just Say No to Bad Dates
Is there a polite way to turn down a date? For the most part, I support the idea that you should give everyone a fair shot. But, then again, there are always exceptions. So, how do you say no to someone you’re not interested in? You say it quickly and directly. If you’ve declined a date with this person more than once, then it’s time to be blunt. Rachel Greenwald, author of Find A Husband After 35, suggests using language such as this: “I’m sorry, but there is no chance at all for us. Please stop asking me.” Pay attention to your tone-the trick is to not sound too severe or too sappy. The words may seem a bit harsh, but you shouldn’t waste your time or energy getting bogged down by someone who’s not compatible. Greenwald advises that you soften the blow by acknowledging the person’s positive characteristics, or suggesting that he/she would be a good fit for another friend of yours. If the person reacts badly: c’est la vie. It’s better to honest upfront and to avoid hurt feelings down the road.
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So what makes a bad date? Someone that is self consumed with their personal accomplishments? Someone that dates with their wallet and not their heart? I'm pushing 50, and can reminisce about the good old days when we had to get creative...
ReplyDeleteNo expensive dinners, no big nights out on the town, we looked for free stuff or darn near it to win a lover over. If there is one thing that this sluggish economy has brought to us, is that many Americans are having to get creative with dating.
How about a nice sandwich shared by two atop Stone Mountain? Or, how about a nice day at a local park that offers picture perfect scenic hiking trails, and cheap canoe rentals, and grills for grilling out a candle lit dinner with some nice romantic tunes playing from your MP3 player.
Get the picture? Date from your heart, focus on the one your with, enjoy a nice romantic moment, and just enjoy that person, and that moment.