Break-up Playlist

Lets face it, sometimes getting over a break-up can take a while.  Months or weeks go by of moping around in dirty pajama's, drowning yourself in ice cream & chocolate, and not showering.

Sometimes life don't give us the luxury of taking our time to morn the loss of the lost love and you just gotta pull yourself together.  Or maybe, you just wanna be OVER IT!

Here is an article with the top break-up songs.  Download a few of these and get OVER IT!

When is the right time??

Have you ever found yourself in a new relationship wondering when is the right time to do the deed?

Sometimes waiting too long can make the other feel unsure of where you stand or put you guys in the friend zone.  However, sometimes having sex too soon complicates things resulting in a break-up.  Uft, as if you need more pressure on the relationship plate !

So...how do you get the timing right?!   I personally feel that this is a touchy subject and honestly I think the real answer is based on you as an individual.  I did come across this article and thought I would share it with you guys.

Read it HERE!

Boyfriends of Honor

We have such a fun job helping people find love, however our hearts are heavy this week due to the tragedy in Aurora, Colorado.  Our thoughts and prayers go out to the victims along with their  friends and families.

Earlier today I read that 3 of the men were killed while shielding their girlfriends.  True men of Courage!

So for those of you who still question if there are good men out there...Yes! Hopefully you will find someone who is willing to protect you.  Lets just hope it is never to this instances extreme.

Destructive Relationship?!

We all know someone who is or has been in a terribly unhealthy relationship! I came across this blog posting that touches on this subject and it really stuck a cord with me.

For the past 5+ years I have watched someone very close to me stay in a relationships that has progressively gotten worse and worse with time, however they both refuse to just end it.  It is pretty much at a point of insanity  co-dependence.  This relationship is so bad that effects everyone around them to the point that no one ever wants to hang out with them.  Too much drama.  The situation is really starting to become a dangerous one and honestly I don't know if they will ever wake up and realize that they would be SO MUCH better off without one another!

Read the Blog HERE .  It has great tips on how or why you should GET THE F. OUT! Read it for yourself or forward to  a friend that might need to guidance, motivation, and support.

Stalk Much?!

It is no secret that with the Internet today you can ‘Google’ just about anything that you want to. You can find out how much your neighbor paid for their home, the criminal background of just about anyone and even your co-workers salary. Just because the Internet and ‘Google’ make it easy to cyber stalk does NOT mean you should do it.

Before a first date, do not Facebook, Myspace, LinkedIn, Google or WHATEVER-stalk your potential match. If you have been set up through a reputable friend, or reputable company like 1 on 1 Matchmaking or the 8 at 8 Dinner Club, then you have nothing to worry about. If you read all about your future date online, it will make conversations strained between the two of you and the first date less fun. Snooping around the Internet may also cause you to make snap judgments about someone before you have even met.

Not to mention, what if you slip up on the date. How awkward would it be if you were having a pleasant conversation and you let on that you already knew information that he hadn’t told you at dinner? That is one extremely quick way to make your date think you’re a psycho creeper.

Just relax. It is a first date. If there isn’t a connection or chemistry and you don’t want to go out with them ever again, good news; you don’t have to! Don’t be scared of dating. You have to put yourself out there to get the results that you are looking for. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Are you ready for a relationship?

Are you really ready for a relationship!? For some, this isn't even a question but for others it might be something to think about.

Are you the serial dater that keeps dating a new person every few months?  Why does it never work out?

COULD IT BE YOU!?

Eventually you need to stop blaming the others and take a look at yup, yourself!  I think the first question that should come to mind is:  Am I ready to be a in relationship?

CLICK HERE to Take this fun quiz to find out!

 

Stop setting your standards on looks only!!!

Do you find yourself asking, where are all the good guys? They are there right in front of you just like they've always been. You just can't see them, because your too busy focusing on "looks" as your first standard.

I've heard all the typical stories and maybe it's happened to you. So many times family/friends want to set you up with someone on a blind date. The next thing you know, you're on the date eagerly glancing up at them walking through the door. Now you're thinking "OH NO'' he's not my "type" and thinking of every excuse to bolt. Dread creeps over you like an ugly rash. You even contemplate escaping through the bathroom window until you come to your senses. Now now, not so fast, you should take a deep breath, stay clam and just enjoy the evening for your own sake.  Also, believe it or not this person might be the ONE!

What? You say.  Don't get me wrong. I do believe in the attraction, but that's not what you should look at first. Give that person a chance, maybe the first date you didn't get those wonderful butterflies. But if, you could just potentially like at least one thing in that person and maybe give a second date a try, a pleasant surprise could be around the corner. Another quality you like about them will appear and next thing you know, you are falling in love with this amazing person that you have taken the time to get to know.

You may not believe it but one of the best ways to find a compatible partner is through your family and friends. You see, your family and friends know you sometimes better than you think they do. They are looking for certain traits and characteristics in that person who would be perfect for you based on knowing you and your life style.  "Looks" may not be a high critera. They believe that the person they set you up with will possibly be the missing link to your well being and happiness.

Not all men have movie star looks. But, they are sexy in their own right. These guys happen to be the some of the sweetest, smartest,  most successful men around. They make the best husbands and fathers. They  simply want to love you, spoil you and take care of you. What more can a girl ask for?

Next time you get set up on a blind date be open minded, Do yourself a favor and give it a decent whirl. And remember ladies, sometimes that frog might just turn out to be your Prince after all .......

TO: Single Pet Lovers

ATTENTION PET PEOPLE: Question: What is a quick way to scare off a potential date?

Answer: Acting like a crazy cat/dog person on an initial date.

Trust me, I love animals just as much as the next girl; my pets are part of the family! BUT, your potential date wants to get to know you on the first date. They do not want to spend two hours listening to the hilarious things that Fluffy did this morning or looking at endless cat pictures on your cell phone.

By all means, if your date asks about your pets, tell him a little about them. That’s a totally normal topic to come up on a first date and your pets are definitely a part of your life.  All I ask is that you don’t go on and on obsessing over them, even if you might want to.

Just remember that the point of dating is to find someone you want to spend your life with. That person has to be your number one...eventually: Yes, even before the cats and dogs. You don’t want a potential partner to write you off because they think that you love your animals more than you could ever love another human being.

Let your date get to know you and start to fall for you first.  Then after that, then you can unveil the crazy animal person that you are. Just kidding... Kind of.

Love at First Sight?!

Plenty of people believe in “love at first sight” but statistically this little theory’s success rate is extremely low. There are dozens of other important factors that make up a relationship and initial attraction falls very low on the totem pole.  Sure, a relationship that is based off of a snap judgment and an initial attraction may work out for a while, but long term it is likely to be lacking what is really important.

For two people to be compatible and to be able to make a relationship last they must agree on the “big things” and want the same things out of life. Do you both want to have children/family? Do you both handle your money the same? Are you supportive of each other’s goals? How do you treat each other? These questions all need to be answered among several others when you are considering a future with someone.

Remember, looks fade but personality, morals and character last forever. Of course, for a relationship to work there must be an attraction to the other person; all I am saying is that it is not what is MOST important. Sometimes, people will grow on you the more you get to know them and suddenly you’ll find yourself even more attracted to them than ever!

Airbrushed Photo?

For those who have done online dating or are currently participating in on online dating, the questions comes up - do you doctor your picture or not.

Better yet, if you have found someone attractive and wanted to reach out to them via online dating, did you think "Do they really look that their picture?"

Working in the dating world, we hear A LOT of stories about people having met someone finally in person and that person looking older, heavier NOT looking anything like their current profile picture.  It is so disappointing and...deceiving!

To make online dating even harder, there is now an app called  that will allow you to airbrush your photos and it only cost .99 cents!

HERE is an article all about it!