The Secret to Being Approachable

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Are you approachable? Sometimes the reason we're still single isn't that we aren't attractive enough, funny enough or interesting enough, but we are too unapproachable for anyone to find out how great we are. Our last post was about being more attractive on an aesthetic level. Today you are going to learn the secret to being approachable with body language.

Being approachable isn't about your appearance. The secret is in your body language. What is your body doing now? Is your face tense, fist balled or arms crossed as you read? It's important to look friendly and welcoming when trying to attract a partner, for both men and women.

Women often want men to make the first move, but be sure to smile often and make eye contact. Not to the point where you look like a crazy person, but enough to let him know that you're interested. Men are just as sensitive about rejection as women are. They may not say it but after a few rejections, they may be less prone to go up to every woman they are interested in without her welcoming them first.

In addition to smiling and making eye contact, try not to cross your arms. You'll come off as cold and closed off. It helps to speak a little too. It's okay to say, "Hi" or "Good morning" with a nice smile. Men like compliments just as much as women. Try giving him a compliment like, "Nice shirt" or "Is that a new haircut? It looks good on you," if you see each other in passing often.

Men, the same goes for you. Smile a little and make eye contact. This may help your odds of her actually giving you a hint she is interested. If you don't appear friendly, she'll be a lot less likely to say, "Hi" or compliment you.

Although women approach men less than men approach them, it's still important for you to be approachable so you're not going in blind when you approach women. Your success with communicating with women who show signs it's okay to approach them will be much higher than just approaching a woman who doesn't look or smile your way.

More tips for women: http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/advice/intimidating-unapproachable-women 

More tips for men: There wasn't much additional information on how to be approachable for men. If you know of any good articles we can share, let us know in the comments!

If you feel like you need a date coach, visit our website www.8at8.com and take a look at the  "1 on 1 Date Coach" tab.

Until next time, good luck!

8at8 and 1on1 

3 Reasons Your Appearance Matters

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In a perfect world, your looks wouldn't matter, but in the real world, your appearance matters. We're going to give you 3 reasons why.

1. Your personality is not eye candy: We know you'd like to think your personality is all you need to attract someone but when you walk through the door, no one is looking at your personality. They're looking at you! Meeting someone while looking subpar will not make them want to get to know you. Let your great personality shine through by looking great on the outside too. By no means does this mean you should be shallow, but if you want someone to care enough to get to know you, you need to look like you care about yourself.

2. Eventually you are going to want to get physical: Okay, so he or she likes you for your stellar personality.

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Now, the apple of your eye needs to be physically attracted to you for the physical part to start. You don't want to get put in the friend zone because they can't get past your awful hair and style from the 80's. Update your closet and treat your hair like people are going to see it. Don't let it get too greasy or messy and find a modern style that suits you.

Specific to women- Stop covering up your entire body! If you show leg, cover the chest and vice versa. If you cover everything, there is nothing to show you are actually a woman. Showing a little skin won't make him judge you, just keep a good clothing to skin ratio. The femininity of your body is what is attractive.

3. Parents don't want their adult child with someone who resembles a hobo: You don't have to be Mr. GQ or a beauty queen, but look like you take pride in how you look. When you meet the parents, they shouldn't think, "Why is my son/daughter with this person?!"

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The point is groom yourself regularly and put yourself together. Don't roll out of bed in your sweats without brushing your teeth or combing your hair and say, "look out world here I come!" Appear happy, be happy and someone will be happy to get to know you.

"I'm Too Busy to Date"

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"I'm too busy to date," we hear this at our dinner club all the time. Dating requires time, something most busy professionals don't have. Does this mean you have to choose between a successful career and finding love? No, not at all. A few easy ways to combine your everyday life with your dating life are below.

Lunch Date: People think dates have to happen at night and they usually choose dinner. This is so not true! Sure, the first date should be your best impression but once you're just trying to learn about a person, you can get creative. You have to eat lunch every day so eat lunch together somewhere nice. It will be fun to go some place new and make a new memory with the person you're dating.

Care for Pets Together: If you and your sweetie both have dogs, walk them together regularly. It can become your new "thing." Dog walking will be a time when you're both calm and can talk even if it's just for 30 minutes. Washing your dogs together can also be fun, if you have time to do it yourselves.

Workout Together: Exercising doesn't leave much room for talking, if you're doing it right, but you can make it fun. You two can go running and race one another or see who can swim the most laps in the pool. Weightlifting may not be a fair competition, but you get the point. Fitness classes are also a fun way to spend time together, while staying in shape.

Travel Together: This one is for the couples that have been together a little longer. If you are constantly traveling for work, take your significant other along. Of course, don't mix business with pleasure and have them hanging out around at dinner with clients, but after your meetings, spend a little time before you get back to working. If you're only free for two hours the whole  time, he or she can go enjoy shopping or explore  the area and take pictures for you. Those two hours of time together are better than none at all, especially if you are out of town a majority of the time.

These ideas are just a few to get you started but you can get as creative as you want. If the person is worth it, you will start noticing ways to incorporate them into your life. You're never too busy for the right person.

For advice on dating a busy man visit this link: http://corporette.com/2011/05/03/how-to-date-an-over-achieving-busy-guy/

For advice on dating a busy woman visit this link: http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/how-to-date-a-busy-girl-21372.html

Avoid New Relationship Fizzle

Does it seem like you begin dating someone really great and a few months in you find yourself bored and less excited about the person you're dating?

That is relationship fizzle. At first, everything is shiny and new with this new person you're getting to know. There are so many new things to try and to talk about but, suddenly, you have nothing to talk about and you're over the same old dates.

When your relationship reaches this point, it is important to keep communicating. It may seem obvious, but ask about the person's day. Did they tell you about something going on with friends or family? Bring that up to show you were listening. Ask if anyone they know has tried something new and suggest you guys try it, if they liked it.

Really there are many ways to keep relationships from fizzling out. You just have to be willing to be creative and put in the work to keep your relationship exciting and interesting.

More tips on how to avoid relationship fizzle can be found here: http://www.twodaymag.com/love/view/5-reasons-relationships-fizzle

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Single Mingle Happy Hour

You weren’t at the Single Mingle Happy Hour on Wednesday night? Sorry!

The first members-only happy hour was a huge success. Love was in the air and wine was swirling in glasses as our members and their guests laughed the night away.

The event on April 3 from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. brought 70 singles to Ocean Prime in Atlanta. Throughout the night, Eight at Eight Dinner Club’s hostesses acted as personal wingwomen to guests, introducing them to whoever caught their eye.

To show our appreciation for our clients they enjoyed complimentary appetizers. Free food, wine, remarkable men and women…I call that a great time!

If you want to be part of the next members-only event, join Eight at Eight Dinner Club today. Visit 8at8.com or call 888-897-8285 to become a member of the best singles club around.