8 Places to Meet Someone in December

Meeting people is hard especially during the hustle & bustle of the holidays.

Here is an article on 8 unexpected places to meet people in December.

Check it out HERE!

How to love someone.

There are a bunch of myths about love:

If you're always there for them- that's how you love someone. [Not true, it turns out.]
By always doing things for them, that's how you love someone. [Also not true and a quick way to unhappiness.]
Love happens instantaneously and lasts forever. [It's work, work, work.. Oh, and more work!]
The right guy/girl will always let me be right. [Haha... Psych! Real love doesn't mean being right.]

I've come up with a couple of ways that I love the people in my life. Some apply more to romantic relationships than platonic ones.

1. Tell them the things that make them great.  In sharing with them the things you love most, it can bring the two of you guys closer.  Maybe they don't see the things that make them great, or they just need to know that you see them too.


2. Be genuine!  Sincerely give compliments and praise. Genuinely ask opinions and viewpoints.  Listen.  Share.


3. Don't overdo it.  I know I just said to be genuine and sincere, but this doesn't mean sharing EVERY time you're upset or disgruntled.  Spend some time alone, digesting your thoughts before you share something.  Be genuine, but also a little tough.  Know yourself well enough to let the small things go.


4. Listen... and when you're done listening, keep listening.  A lot of people complain about their partners lack of interest or contribution to conversation... Most of the time this goes back to the fact that they don't feel heard.  When you feel that your partner/friend is attentive and listening, you're more likely to share.


5. Don't focus on why they need to be different.  You can't fix other people.


6. Respecting them doesn't mean you have to approve every action or stance. You can't control every aspect of their life!  Sometimes you need to love them and step back.


7. Don't be a doormat.  Sometimes you have to step it up and help those in your life, but not all the time.  Healthy relationships doesn't equal being a doormat.

What are the ways that you love the people in your life?

Hard work.

There's no question that relationships are tough. The day-to-day can really make a relationship feel lackluster. Running errands, making sure bills are paid, changing the oil in your car... Not exactly the most thrilling stuff, but we all have to face it.  Here's just a thought while we head into the weekend...

 

What's more important: love or success?

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. In trying to balance your life, what is more important to you... love or success?

Taylor Swift gave a really insightful answer in a recent interview:

"I think that the idea of finding another person to share your life with is the most fascinating, beautiful quest you could ever be on in life. And yes, living your dreams is so important too, and a lot of times I've put that before everything else. But then you get to a place where the whole time you're living these dreams, you look beside you to say to someone, "Hey, isn't this so much fun?!" And if there's no one there to say it to, what's the point?"

A simple way to think about that.  At the end of the day, after you've accomplished all your dreams, goals, and ambitions.. Would you want someone to share in that with you?

be thankful!

 

Wanna know a little secret that will change your entire life?  Be thankful. Seriously!  It'll give you a glowing smile, radiant skin, a joyful heart, and the right perspective.. PS: these are all good things in the dating world! ;)

 Instead of always making to-do lists, make a list of five different things that you're thankful for right this second!

Here's my list for today: 

• Hazelnut coffee creamer 
• This incredibly beautiful, bright red tree right by our office.  It almost looks like it's caught on fire.  It's the perfect fall tree. 
• All the winter treats we get to start eating/I've already been eating.. Pumpkin pie... S'mores... Cookies..
• My great co-workers. We always have fun here in the office! 
• The fact there are only 45 days til Christmas! 

What's your list?  What are you thankful for?  

Freaking out!

Do you freak out too easily?  Make mountains out of a molehill?

Sometimes we all need a little reality check.

 Life is stressful... We all have work deadlines, family obligations, friends to see, laundry to fold, you name it.  But bringing unnecessarily stress into your relationship is no good!  This weekend spend some time reflecting on whether or not you bring stress to you and your partner's relationship.  Worrying about small things (it took him 45 minutes to respond to my text, he hasn't made dinner plans for us yet, he never wants to watch that overly girly romantic movie with me...) is just going to be an unnecessary strain!  Life is difficult- use your relationship to build each other up! Don't tare down one another over things that just aren't that important.